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Everyone has struggled with issues at some time or another. Some have found resolution alone, through analysis, via a spiritual retreat or meditation, and others by sharing problems with a sympathetic listener. The answers to our problems are usually discovered within us - but sometimes solutions are more easily found by brainstorming with others.

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If you’re feeling low, but have found the energy to seek out this site, your healing process has already begun. Carl Jung believed that life is a series of alchemical cycles, through which we transform the blackness of lead (our problem), into the perfect beauty of gold, happiness (the solution). As the alchemist of your own life, you experience cycles of transformation many times, learning the lessons of life and becoming exactly who you’re meant to be.

If you’re experiencing any of these issues, the explanations below may reassure you:

Feeling low and depressed
Anxious and panicky
Trapped or paralysed
Compulsive overeating
Lonely or isolated
The loss of a loved one

If you’re feeling low and depressed

We all feel depressed from time to time. It’s absolutely normal. But if the depression persists and you can’t shake off feelings of hopelessness, then it’s time to look at them more closely.

Depression cannot be avoided and needs to be navigated through, to reach a balanced state. Depression is a message from your unconscious challenging you to change. The process is easier with a companion alongside, helping you to manage the painful feelings and learn that they will pass.

If you’re anxious and panicky

Anxiety and panic is a natural result of the human flight, fright or freeze mechanism. While it’s natural for you to feel anxious when approaching a difficult encounter, if you experience panic, this may be triggered by a memory of an older painful event. This event may have taken place in early childhood, even before you could talk, but your body remembers the fear even though your mind has forgotten.

Panic attacks are frightening, but when examined through gentle questioning, an unconscious memory can be uncovered.

Understanding of the cause of anxiety can alleviate your symptoms, and CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) is a successful method in the treatment of anxiety and panic attacks.

If you feel trapped or paralysed

You might be re-living childhood trapped feelings in your adult life. Feeling trapped in a miserable job or relationship is an experience common to many of us. But saying goodbye seems impossible. You cannot risk giving up the safety of your unhappy situation, since the unknown is frightening. The result is paralysis.

In therapy you are encouraged to identify the roots of your feelings and re-plant them back in the past, so that the present is free from your old experience. You will then find you have the confidence and courage to take the necessary risks to make positive changes.

If you eat compulsively

Compulsive eating is secret and isolating, releasing angry or self-punishing feelings. It is so shameful it is usually done in private. When you’re eating compulsively you can never get enough of food you don’t really want.

For overeaters, food is not nourishing. It is a compensation for feeling unloved or unlovable, lonely and invisible, and a way of feeling somehow connected to ourselves and to life. Eating soothes the pain of a difficult experience or silences unbearable feelings.

Talking about the shame, and exploring childhood memories can help to alleviate your suffering around this common problem.

If you are lonely or isolated

Very few people survive entirely on their own. Most of us need to belong in relationships, families or communities. But if life has not presented us with a loving environment, then we can feel extremely isolated.

The human condition is driven by a desire to be accepted and to live in harmony with others. When conflict arises, we feel rejected, miserable or depressed.

Being able to talk about these feelings with someone who understands is a step forward to building the confidence to survive them.

If you have lost someone you love

The mourning process is one that we will all face in our lives. The pain of losing someone close to us can feel unbearable. When we grieve, we go through a process which may begin with disbelief, which turns to anger, deep sorrow and finally acceptance of our loss.

You may be feeling isolated and not want to burden others. As soon as you begin talking, you fear that your tears will never stop.

Therapy may allow you to express your feelings in a safe place, and help you make sense of them.

Get In Touch

If you have any questions, or you would like to book a free consultation, please call or email me on: 07966 699149 or maxine@maxinealtman.com.

“No one can give you better advice than yourself.”

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